what we do like.
It is what it is. The best thing we can do for ourselves is listening to our hearts-equally: the good and the bad.
Second, our “significant other” may leave something to be desired. In addition to disliking specific qualities about him, we may also wish our romantic partner held certain qualities. Any thought that our romantic partner is lacking something means that there are qualities about him that we wish he possessed.
For example, we may think to ourselves “I wish he was more like….” or He does not …” These thoughts indicate some apprehension on our part. If we accept anything less than what we want and hope for, then we are “settling.” We should not force ourselves to be content with someone that lacks a quality that is important to us. Any attribute that is important to you is an attribute that would ultimately make you happier short and long-term. The fact that you can name any one characteristic is enough evidence that the lack of this trait has relevance to you. Do not settle for someone who does not possess all the qualities that are significant to you.
Lastly, if we are in a relationship and we ask ourselves, “Is he is the right one, to determine if he is, then our answer is in the question. When we have met someone that we are absolutely in love with we should not have to ask, we should already know. Whether we ask this question to ourselves or discuss it with others, that mere fact the question is asked signifies there is some uncertainty or doubt about the answer. In other words, the question speaks for itself. If you have to ask then the answer is no. No discussion or list can compensate for that in which your heart does not feel. You will know when